Beginners guide to texting
There are many people who have no idea on how to text, so here is a beginners guide to how to approach texting.
1. You got the number
Good. Now differentiate yourself from all the other guys. "Hey, how are you"is boring. If you're wondering why you're not getting any responses, that is why. There's already some attraction due to receiving the number, but you've still gotta make the conversation fun. "How was your weekend" is already more fun but we can do better. A good text would be "hey X, you have fun this weekend?"
This text:
Says her name.
Asks if she had fun, reminding her of the weekend and the part you played in it (pretty cheesy but hey, better to think about the fun on the weekend then the hangover aspect)
Really easy to transition to other conversation topics
Most common response to this would be "yeah was good. you?" This opens up a whole avenue of conversation. You could ask where she went after you left or tell tell her where you went. For example:
Hey Sarah, you have fun this weekend?
yeah was good! you?
Yeah was fun. Where'd you go afterwards?
just went home
grim! we went to X in the city afterwards, you ever been?
2. The conversation
So you've talked about your favourite clubs and the conversation is dying out. Let it die and don't text her for a day or 2. You do not want to be a texting buddy. If she texts you, respond in turn but don't make it too keen. Answer her question, reciprocate, but it should always be 1-1. This means that you should have a 1-1 texting, but ideally she should be texting you more.
However, if you need to build rapport you should text her first. Ask her how her day's been, anything but the key is to make it fun. In this situation, the conversation with Ol' Sarah died out after talking about our favourite clubs. It's been a few days
hey sarah, busy day? or you just thinking about this weekend and how much you're gonna drink :P
hahaha nooo my days been ok (lame joke about drinking or something)
lol so where do you work? or you at uni or what?
i'm actually doing (girl stuff)
conversation about her stuff, throwing in jokes and the convo is going great when all of a sudden you have to go coz you're a guy who's not invested in this girl
ah anyway, how's your week looking?
This will get 2 responses. "I'm free on X and Y" or "really busy" If she's free, perfect. Coffee/first date X at Y at 2pm. Done. If she's busy it means one of two things: She's legitimately busy or she doesn't wanna see you. What I like to do is ask "too busy for coffee at X in Y??" If she's keen she'll make an exception to her business and get coffee, or offer an alternate time. If she's not keen she'll say "yeah soz" and that's that. Sarah's number is deleted.
3. Day of the Date
Easy. Just text her a few hours before "hey, looking forward to today" or "hey, are we still on?". If she flakes, leave her be. Could potentially text her in a few days but I wouldn't. Chances are she's probably keen by this point so she'll respond with something like "yeah, X at Y, right?"
After the date, you want to text her in a few hours. I like to say "was good to catch up, i had a lot of fun!" and then leave it at that unless she asks a question or something. You don't wanna text too much on the same day after your date, just assume you've just gotten her number. This time though, you've hopefully given her a nickname or have some dumb inside joke you can refer to.
4. Basic texting rules
Don't be that annoying guy. She should WANT to talk to you. If you find yourself doing this you should delete her number.
Using her name is good, but if you keep using it she'll catch on and think its creepy. Had a girl tell me a guy "kept using her name to try and be intimate"
Nicknames are fun and they stick. Same rules as first name apply though, and don't just DECIDE to give her a nickname, make it happen naturally
Respond to her when you want. If she texts you first she wants to talk to you. Respond to her within 2-5 minutes because she's obviously in a texting mood, no point pretending to be busy. If she takes aeons to respond then take 10-15 minutes, or just do something else and see if she's worth responding to after that activity.
A response is a response, but you gotta get good at picking a receptive one. It's hard over text and some girls literally respond coz they feel bad. These girls will try to end conversations. If the conversation is dying and she's not trying to keep it going, then you shouldn't either. Remember, it's 1-1.
There is no "perfect" text. I've sent texts saying "how was your day brah" and gotten responses and dates and more. The key is to have fun, and if you have fun they will too.
Conclusion
This guide should by no means be a step by step. It's all theoretical and nothing is better than going out there and getting numbers and seeing what works for you and what works for different girls. I think this is a good base for people who have literally 0 idea what they're doing though.
If you are stil having trouble texting, give this guide a read.